Books for Raising Conflict-Sensitive and Peace Promoting (CSPP) Kids, #2

Some people have habits that annoy us and challenge our patience, sense of humor, and kindness. Some have bad reputation — whether labels thrown at them are true or not, becoming friends with them comes with some social risks. Will you still be friends with them?

My featured books today tackle this predicament and give us entry points to explore with young ones concrete actions to promote peace. These books are also two of my favorites. They remind me of happy memories, of many firsts and of discovering the joy of peace storytelling.

Aside from the usual ‘in a nutshell,’ peace AHA!, and possible processing questions that I used in my first post on Books for Raising CSPP[1] Kids, I’ve added two more sections here:

  • Introduction – This is an optional short interaction with kids to prep them for the storytelling session. You can be as creative as you want here. This may include questions related to the central theme of the story or the main characters. (I learned this technique from Alitaptap Storytellers Philippines.)
  • Reflection and Application – This provides an opportunity to explore and deepen discussion about a specific concept on peace or conflict related to the story and encourages commitment to promote peace. If time’s limited, this could be a follow-through activity on another day.

ANG DALAWANG HARING SIGA

ang dalawang haring sigaStory by Rene O. Villanueva
Illustrations by Ruben de Jesus
Published by the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF)Arranged for UNICEF by Tahanan Pacific, Inc.
Bilingual (English and Tagalog);
Recommended for children ages 7 and above.
*This book is currently not available in local bookstores. It may be possible to seek permit from UNICEF Philippines to use the story.

Introduction 

The following may be used as opening questions to build interest about the story to be told:

  • Who among you lives with your grandparents?
  • What characteristics of your grandparents do you like?

After some students have responded to the opening questions, tell the students that the story that will be read today will be about two kings who are loving grandfathers to their respective grandchildren. However, something irked them about each other that they decided to rage war with the other.

In a nutshell: 

This is the story of two kings who valued their pride more than all the jewels in their kingdom. For as long as people could remember, the two kingdoms were deadlocked in a very silly war. How their fight began is quite hilarious and how they called it quits is quite endearing.

Processing Questions for Kids

  1. What are the names of the two kings?
  2. What were the reasons of the two kings for justifying the war that they started?
  3. What was the advice of others to the two kings?
  4. Why do you think the two kings have difficulty reconciling?
  5. How did the two kings patch up their differences?
  6. What could they have done to avoid raging war?

Peace AHA!

Although told in a funny way, the story is packed with serious stuff about how conflict begins; why war should be avoided; and how to resolve conflict in a non-violent way. Conflict begins when two people perceives that they have incompatible goals or that the other’s need is a hindrance to meeting his/her needs. The highly entertaining story of Ang Dalawang Haring Siga illustrates this well and tells us of the importance of communication in resolving conflict.

The following are some nuggets of wisdom that can be used for generating comments from kids or to highlight lessons of the story.

  • Conflict[2] cannot be avoided because of our innate differences as unique individuals and people of different cultures and experiences. However, violence can be avoided. It is the worst response to conflict.
  • Violence will not resolve conflict; it will only aggravate it. In war no one wins, everyone’s a loser.
  • Too much pride gets in the way of peace.
  • Humility to accept our weaknesses and the kindness to accept our differences are values that we must learn to be able to forgive and make peace.
  • There are other peaceful ways of resolving conflict such as dialogue.
  • All of us can be a peacemaker/peacebuilder just like the grandchildren of King Porong and King Emong.

Reflection and Application

Draw from the students their insights on peaceful ways of resolving conflict (i.e. dialogue, negotiation). Whenever possible, teachers could add additional input to the discussion. To reinforce learning, students could re-enact Ang Dalawang Haring Siga focusing on how to prevent war using their recommended means of resolving conflict. Selected students can pose as actors while others as observers.

PETER AND AHMED

peter and ahmed

Story by Jojie Wong;
Illustrations by Kora Dandan-Albano
Published by OMF Literature Inc. for HIYAS
Bilingual (English and Tagalog); Recommended for children ages 8 and above.
*still available in major local bookstores.

Introduction

Since this is a story of friendship, one possible way to introduce the story is to engage kids to talk about their close friends. The idea here is to surface the good qualities of their friends which are almost always never related to race, ethnicity, religion, physical attribute, gender or status in life. Aside from the issue of prejudice, this is one important message of Peter and Ahmed.

Ask kids if they have a bestfriend or a very close friend. Then request for some kids to share 2 or 3 characteristics that they like most about their bestfriend. Tell the kids that the story for today is about two bestfriends. Why they hit it off the first time and what they enjoyed doing together are two interesting things to watch out for in the story.

In a nutshell 

This is a story of friendship between a Muslim and a Christian boy. In spite of the spiteful words that Peter’s neighbours say against the family of Ahmed who’s a Muslim, Peter found a bestfriend in Ahmed. It also helped that Peter’s mother, unaffected by the prejudices of others against Muslims, even encouraged their friendship.

Processing Questions for Kids:

  1. Who are the best of friends in the story and how did they become friends?
  2. What do they have in common? What are their differences?
  3. Do their differences become a hindrance to their friendship?
  4. What do the neighbors of Ahmed tell about their family? Do you think there is enough basis for their accusations?
  5. How did the family of Peter treat the family of Ahmed?

Peace AHA!

The story provides a good springboard to discuss about stereotype[3] and prejudices[4] and how these could lead to discrimination[5] and even violence if they go uncheck. The story of Peter and Ahmed challenges prejudice against Muslims and shows that it is possible for Christian and Muslims to be friends and happily co-exist.

The story promotes tolerance or the “respect, acceptance and appreciation of the rich diversity of cultures and various forms of human expression (UNESCO, 1995; Castro and Gallace, 2000).

Reflection and Application

Optional for older students: Through a participative discussion, explore with the students different biases/stereotypes[6] (an opinion/judgment about other people that are without the benefit of facts; labels we use which have no basis) about other people or social groups. Ask them how these biases/stereotypes get in the way of creating positive relationships and promoting peace. Explore with kids what they can possibly do to avoid stereotyping.

To wrap up this post, I’d like to share one more tool that could help reinforce lessons learned from peace storytelling. A peace corner may be created inside the classroom where “nuggets of wisdom,” reflections/lessons learned of students, and even commitments to peace can be posted. This could serve as a “wall journal” that teachers could refer back when opportunity comes and a reminder to students about their journey as young peace advocates.

I hope these story options inspire you today. Let’s work for a peaceful society one story at a time. Have fun with your next storytelling session!

 -ems, #iamforpeace

[1] To raise children who are conflict-sensitive, who are able to identify manifestations of violence and conflict, we have to sharpen their critical thinking and enhance their perspective on issues such as human rights, gender equality, social and economic justice, non-violence, sustainable development, etc. To empower them as peace-promoting kids who could act for peace, we must also teach them courage and compassion and skills to resolve issues using non-violent means (i.e. dialogue, negotiation).

[2] Conflict is the perception of incompatible goals (Galtung, 1969).

[3] Stereotype refers to the negative opinion about a person or group based on incomplete knowledge. This forms the basis for prejudicial feelings. (Castro and Gallace, 2008).

[4] Prejudice is the negative feeling or attitude towards a person or a group even if it lacks basis (Allport, 1958; Castro and Gallace, 2008). This may lead to negative action or discrimination.

[5] Discrimination refers to negative actions toward members of a specific social group that may be manifested in avoidance, aversion or even violence. (Franzoi, 1986; Castro and Gallace, 2008)

[6] The Center for Peace Education of Miriam College made a survey on common biases about certain groups of people. This can be found in Chapter 6 (Challenging Prejudice and Building Tolerance) of the book of Dr. Loreta Castro and Dr. Jasmin Gallace, Peace Education: A Pathway to a Culture of Peace. This chapter also provides several recommendations on how to address prejudice and promote tolerance.. (To buy a copy of the book, email CPE through cpe@mc.edu.ph; a pdf file is also available for free online.)

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Kids for Peace

I’m thrilled to know that peace storytelling for kids will be a regular feature of the inter-agency Serbisyo Caravan for Peace and Development in Region XI. The organizers would like to make use of local children stories to promote a culture of peace among kids in these communities. I’m glad they found my recommendations in my first post about “Books for Raising CSPP Kids” useful options for this undertaking. Yay!

The Serbisyo Caravan is part of the Payapa at Masaganang Pamayanan (PAMANA) initiative that aims to bring government services closer to the people and extend development interventions to remote and vulnerable communities, ensuring that no one’s left behind.

The enthusiasm to include peace storytelling in the caravan sprang from the successful conduct of this activity by the Office of the Presidential Adviser on the Peace Process (OPAPP) in day care centers in some PAMANA barangays last month, during the Peace Consciousness Month. This reminds me as well of the time when my colleagues and I launched a series of Kids for Peace sessions in 2008 and 2009. Back then, it was done to drum up support for the implementation of Executive Order 570, Institutionalizing Peace Education in Basic Education and Teacher Education.

Artwork courtesy of Jodi Lego
Artwork courtesy of Jodi Lego

Every Kids for Peace session was really fun with opportunities to participate in interactive storytelling, group dance, peace art and games with tokens to boot. We conducted this in a children’s museum (Museo Pambata), bookstore (Powerbooks), a mall (SM), communities where there are peace caravans, an evacuation area for internally displaced people, and of course, schools. Celebrities (Diether Ocampo and Nova Villa), storytelling group (Alitaptap Storyteller Philippines), teachers, local youth group and OPAPP staff led the storytelling sessions. Other non-government organizations (i.e. Green Circle Foundation; Kids for Peace Foundation; K.I.D.S. Foundation; World Food Programme; and the Peacemaker’s Circle) also provided support/co-facilitated the events.

kids for peace photos 2

In 2008 and 2009, the Kids for Peace sessions aimed to promote tolerance[1], non-violent means of resolving conflict and protection of natural resources. In some of the venues, Muslim and Christian kids played together and participated in the interactive storytelling sessions. In September 2009, OPAPP also partnered with the Department of Education to conduct the National Storytelling for Peace where DepEd and OPAPP staff packaged several story options with lesson plan for use of elementary teachers.

kids for peace photos 3

FRIENDSHIP CEREMONY

The story of Ang Dalawang Haring Siga which is about two proud kings who are at odds with each other, inspired us to add a friendship ceremony in the Kids for Peace program. At the start of the ceremony, we asked the kids to show off their ‘siga’ (rogue) pose. Now, after listening and learning from the story, we encouraged the kids to replace their ‘siga’ pose with a new, more fun and positive action.

friendship ceremony_kids for peaceWe demonstrated to the kids a cool handshake (consisting of high-5, shake hand, etc.) that the kids will do while reciting the mantra: “Kaibigan kita at magtutulungan tayo para sa kapayapaan.” (You’re my friend and we will work together for peace). They recited this with their partner/friend.

After doing the ‘handshake’ and reciting their mantra, the kids exchanged baller as a symbol of their friendship and bond as peace advocate.

PANATA NG ISANG BATANG TAGAPAGTAGUYOD NG KAPAYAPAAN
(PLEDGE OF A YOUNG PEACE ADVOCATE)

To wrap up our ‘Kids for Peace’ events, children recited the pledge of a young peace advocate which I wrote back then for this event.

pledge_peace advocate_kids for peace

Ako si _________ ay naniniwala na nilikha akong mabuti ng Diyos.
(I am _________ and I believe that I am created as naturally good by God.)

Marami akong magagandang katangian ngunit dahil ako ay espesyal na anak ng Diyos, hindi lahat ng kung ano ako ay gayun din ang iba. (I have many good qualities but because I am a special child of God, I am wonderfully unique and different from others.)

Dahil dito, alam ko na maaring may pagkakataon na hindi ako maiintindihan o matatanggap ng iba. (Because of this uniqueness, I know that there will be times when others will not understand or readily accept me.)
Gayundin, hindi rin sa lahat ng pagkakataon ay magugustuhan ko ang aking kapwa.
(I also know that I may not like others at all times.)

Ngunit dahil ako ay nilikhang may likas na kabutihan ng puso, sisikapin ko na unawain ang aking kapwa. (But because I am created with innate goodness in my heart, I will strive to draw this goodness in trying to understand others.)

Magiging bukas ako sa pakikipag-usap at hindi makikipag-away. Mamahalin ko ang aking pamilya at mga kaibigan at magiging mapagpatawad sa iba.
(I will be open to dialogue and will not quarrel with others. I will love my family and friends and will be forgiving of others.

Ako ay isang peace advocate. (I am a peace advocate.)

Sa aming tahanan, paaralan, at pamayanan, ako ay tutulong upang panatiliin ang kaayusan at kapayapaan pagka’t naniniwala akong may magagawa ako para maging mapayapa ang Pilipinas! (In our home, school and community, I will help in ensuring peace and order because I believe I can do something for a peaceful Philippines!)

This pledge was actually tailored-fit to the theme and stories used in 2008-2009. This may need a little bit of tweaking to make it a more generic but still meaningful pledge of a young peace advocate.

Those Kids for Peace events were really happy times and this post is already sounding more like a Throwback Thursday on a Tuesday :). Oh, I’m just feeling quite nostalgic and missing these peace ed mini adventures. Although those were just simple activities, all our efforts are rewarded each time kids assert their vision of peace and said something smart about how conflict can be resolved in a peaceful way.

I hope the peace storytelling of the Serbisyo Caravan inspires more teachers to integrate peace in their lesson plan. One story may not be enough to firmly plant the seeds of peace in the minds and hearts of young ones. To build a culture of peace, we must consistently cultivate the values and abilities of children for peace everywhere – at home, in school and in our community.

–ems, #iamforpeace

[1] Tolerance is the “respect, acceptance and appreciation of the rich diversity of cultures and various forms of human expression (UNESCO, 1995; Castro and Gallace, 2008).

International Day of Non-violence Reflections

sculpture_mother clutching baby
Photo taken at the Cheonan Independence Museum, courtesy of Dr. Marilen Parungao-Balolong, PhD.

This poignant sculpture of a woman and child with the backdrop of war-torn Korea (could be early 1900), tug a string in my heart and got me wondering how this woman might have felt. These words came to me last night:

Is it grief, fear or hopelessness that is etched on your face?
Is it grief for love ones lost and only the warmth of your child’s breath
reminds you you’re still alive?
Is it fear for yours and this innocent baby’s own life?
Or is it hopelessness and resignation to the fact that death could be near and inevitable?

Oh you have suffered long and endured.
Your fear is palpable yet in your heart, there’s no room for resignation.
Grief and fear may assault the remaining thread of your hope,
but your love shall make you endure for another life depends on you.

The strength of the human spirit could triumph over the scourges of war,
but no mother and no child deserve to suffer as much.
You need not have to endure all these,
had they known that in war no one wins.

Some pictures and sculptures could stir the emotions and evoke a message begging to be released, yet words will never be eloquent enough to capture reality. Still I think they could be powerful tools that can be used to encourage young people to reflect on relevant themes (i.e. peace, conflict, structural violence, etc.) to promote non-violence and a culture of peace. It could also be used for an exercise on empathy, engaging young people to imagine what the characters in the picture think or feel.

So big thanks goes to you my dear friend, Lhen, for thinking of me yesterday when you tagged me to your IG post of this mother and child. Since today is the United Nation’s International Day of Non-violence, it’s a timely piece for reflection.

Every year on October 2, this global observance coincides with the birthday of the great Mahatma Gandhi, leader of the Indian independence movement and pioneer of the philosophy and strategy of non-violence.[1]Gandhi has been the inspiration for non-violent movements for civil rights and social change across the world. Throughout his life, Gandhi remained committed to his belief in non-violence even under oppressive conditions and in the face of seemingly insurmountable challenges. He showed the power of peacefully opposing oppression and hatred. He showed how cooperation and tolerance can prevail over injustice.  He demonstrated the great value of the rule of law in breaking vicious cycles of vengeance.” [2]

One of my favorite quotes of Gandhi is:

Photo courtesy of 9pikz.blogspot.com.
Photo courtesy of 9pikz.blogspot.com.


What one change will you work on starting today to contribute to peace?

References:
[1] http://www.un.org/en/events/nonviolenceday/
[2] Ban Ki-moon, 2015. Secretary-General’s Message for 2015 International Day of Non-violence